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Emergence Young Adult Ministries
young adult surveys
and survey results . . .
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SURVEY OF THE
MOMENT:
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1. Who in your life do you feel
totally comfortable sharing with? |
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Response
Percent |
Response
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| A family member |
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56.7% |
17 |
| Spouse or a
significant other |
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63.3% |
19 |
| A church friend |
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50.0% |
15 |
| A childhood friend |
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36.7% |
11 |
| A coworker / colleague |
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13.3% |
4 |
| A minister |
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30.0% |
9 |
| A teacher |
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6.7% |
2 |
| A counselor |
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6.7% |
2 |
| Other (please specify) |
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13.3% |
4 |
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Other responses:
Was A Church; he is now my grandfather (b/c he ended up
marrying my grandmother) but originally he was a man
from church who really knew how to listen; Spiritual
Director; best friend from college. |
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2. Why that person? |
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Because they love me
unconditionally. |
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Because we've been
through so much together. I think I wouldn't feel
comfortable sharing with someone in my own congregation,
but through a camp environment, I could share more
openly. |
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trust |
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Anyways, the reasons I
feel comfortable talking to these people (and they are
different for different ones) are because either 1) I
feel listened too and supported with no judgment and
lots of love. or 2) I feel like that person can
challenge me and speak truth and wisdom into my life and
my situation. In both, I need to feel loved and
supported, but I sometimes I don't want to be judged and
sometimes I do want to be challenged, inspired, and
called to change (in an encouraging way). |
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My spouse because they
love me no matter what...even when it is difficult. My
childhood friend because they have seen me through my
best and worst since we were 1 and 2 and they are still
here supporting me! |
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BECAUSE SHE IS NON
JUDGMENTAL AND OFFERS GOOD ADVISE |
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Because they are more
than just family, they are also my friend. Plus, she has
to love me and support - she's my mom :-) |
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Listens first. Honest
with me but not unkind. |
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Have great relationships
with them that are full of trust and support |
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I know I won't be
judged. |
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Because I know that
they have my best interest at heart. |
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These are people that
I chose to enter into relationships with. It wasn't
by fate, and I feel confident that they are solid
people with good hearts. |
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trust, they will be
around for a long time. |
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Because they are real
with me, love me/care about me, listen to me, & give
me Godly advice. |
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There is no judgment. |
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I can trust them and
know they care about me. Also, I know they won't
judge me for what I share. |
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know they won't
judge, and will know what to say |
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She listens without
judgment and does not invalidate my thoughts and
feelings even if they are at times irrational. She
also acknowledges that my goals don't fit the
cookie-cutter guidelines that society presents and
encourages me to persist despite that because that's
where my heart yearns to go. |
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because we've been
through everything together and so they know the
back story on why I might feel or act a certain way. |
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they allow me to be
me -- everything about me, no expectations except to
be honest and allow them to be genuine, too |
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I don't feel like if
I shared with these two people I have in mind, that
they would love me any less. |
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We interact on a
daily basis, building the relationship and trust. |
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I was able to show my
true self and they still loved me...in my worst and
best moments. |
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We have so much in
common and developed a close, lasting friendship
built on similar life situations, similar beliefs,
and similar spirituals journeys. These are the ties
that bind . . . |
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History of feeling
safe with that person. |
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family member: always
supportive, caring, non-judging, reflective in
listening church friend/minister: caring, life
connections, genuine care and concern, ministerial
trust/spiritual connection,
coworker/colleague/minister: connection, relation,
peace, trust, comfort |
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